BEAUTIFUL YOU ©2016 Anthony D Darden

BEAUTIFUL YOU
©2016 Anthony D Darden

Beauty is one's nature without the mirror.
That of the soul that sparks life to graciously touch and receive akin.

The world is complicated. It is ruthless and cruel. It is also kind and polite. Depending, you can meet some of the most gracious people in the world, or the worst of the worst. These are life experiences. They also reflect on us, can define us, and in some cases, make us who we are. Most often it determines if we take the road of optimism or cynicism. It determines how we feel about our self, our confidence, and self-esteem. It does not matter if you are beautiful on the outside. Some of the most beautiful looking people in the world, if suffering from low self-esteem, feel they are ugly and unworthy. They often feel lost and trapped. It doesn't matter how many times you tell them they are beautiful, they still feel ugly and unworthy.  Shame lingers over them, and most often find them self reaching for a plateau they will never be able to reach unless they get help, redefine their life, or their way of thinking and how they feel. If they choose not to get help, they can slip into depression, or worse, take their own life.
There is a multitude of reasons one feels unwanted or lacking self-esteem. Most often, it starts at home. Life is shaped from the nutrition of our youth. If your home is littered with disrespect, uncertainty, and lack of caring and compassion, the chances are, life will be filled with cynicism. If it is filled with respect, caring, and compassion, the chances are, life will be filled with optimism. What we are instilled with, and what we instill in our child, family, and loved ones, is often the lead into our personality and characteristics. To say, you cannot make a good natured person bad; just as your cannot make a bad natured person good, unless change is pertinent. The nature of a person is who we are. It is engraved in our being. It is the practices of our everyday life.
Beauty is the kindness we share. It is the thankfulness we are blessed with. It is the gift of respect. It is our caring and forgiving heart. It is our compassion, affection, and humbleness.  It is our will to want to see the best and give the best to those we love and admire. It is our inspiration, desires, dreams, and goals. It is what we have to offer the world for the blessings bestowed upon us. It is graciousness, refinement, and natural intuitive. It is one's nature without the mirror. That of the soul that sparks life to graciously touch and receive akin.


The Desk of Anthony Darden: Happy Be Thankful Day

The Desk of Anthony Darden: Happy Be Thankful Day: Although it is Thanksgiving, a day not for all, because of religious beliefs, and what not. It still is a day for thankfulness. We are ...

Happy Be Thankful Day


Although it is Thanksgiving, a day not for all, because of religious beliefs, and what not. It still is a day for thankfulness. We are all blessed. We wake to a bright and fruitful day. We still have our health, our family, and our friends that make our life worthwhile. Each day is a new beginning. That, in itself, we all should be thankful for. Any misgivings that accrued yesterday, bear no fruit of tomorrow. We are the belief and the creators of our own destiny, given to us by God. Long as we hold true to our heart. Long as we wake each day with hope, fate, and strength, strive to be our best and always be kind, humble, courteous, and polite. Whatever problems you may have, they are small in comparison to those who struggle each day, each waking hour, and have nothing at all.



The Desk of Anthony Darden: UNARMED MAN © 2016 Anthony D Darden

The Desk of Anthony Darden: UNARMED MAN © 2016 Anthony D Darden: UNARMED MAN © 2016 Anthony D Darden Relationships are hard and trying. But if you have a good man, and know without a doubt, he...

UNARMED MAN © 2016 Anthony D Darden


UNARMED MAN
© 2016 Anthony D Darden

Relationships are hard and trying.
But if you have a good man,
and know without a doubt,
he is the one,
take heed.
Don’t send him into the world unarmed.
There is something to say about leaving your man unarmed. Talk is cheap. If you think you are doing something smart by turning your man down, he better be in love and the relationship better be secure as Fort Knox. Because the first sign of attention from any other female is going to spark up his interest. Not because he wants to or has thought about it. It’s the way most men are programmed, especially if he is a decent man and putting his best foot forward. Men that are honest by nature, their sole/soul purpose for finding love and building a family is of pure desire. It is something he wants, something he craves, something that he feels will make him whole and complete. Something beyond all doubt that is his. They are prone to reception by nature, especially a man that is acceptable to having honest women in his life. Good men put their best foot forward. But met with dismay, trickery, deception, or dishonesty, he is frustrated because he doesn’t know how to respond. He is confused because his best doesn’t seem to be good enough. And when the door opens and the outside world comes rushing in without a warning, it most often rips the good fabric of a relationship apart.

The outside world is cruel and daunting. When you have ears and people whispering in your relationship, it can become painful and elusive. The snowball effect most often take on a spin that spits out one problem after another. The root of your initial problem has been buried due to problems that snowballed after the initial fact. The games are now - “because you did that”, which isn’t a resolution, but another nail in the coffin. Problems, if not handled with respect, dignity, pride, and maturity, will get away from you. They can swallow you whole.

Relationship are hard work. They don’t come in a box already made. You may start out with a pretty picture, and everything your heart desires. First bitten and first caught. You may be so conceived and think you are all that and a bag of chips.  But as the old saying goes – where there is a fine woman, there is a man somewhere that’s tired of her shit, and vice versa.

Power is in the glory of real relationships. Real relationships are receptive to each other’s needs and thoughts. They keep the communication lines open, even if the truth hurts, because they have built up that trust. They know without a doubt they have each other’s back, through the good and the bad, because that’s what it takes to build a strong and secure relationship. They maintain their admiration and respect, and always look for the best of each other. They hold their life adoring, affectionate, and caring, doing for each other that benefits the whole of the relationship. Their strength and power is moving together and winning in changing and challenging times. Never doubting or substituting their heart’s desires. That is the strength of their love, the strength of their passion, and the knowledgeable road they have traveled together. That is a bond that is hard to break, and a power that gets stronger in passing time.   

Real honest relationships believe in one thing - taking care of their partner and their family. When women or men find misconception in that and turn to find trust and belief in someone other than their partner and their relationship, they are opening the door to failure. A relationship cornerstone is built on trust, honesty, and devotion. It is the archer and lead to setting up building blocks of success. No one is responsible for the relationship beyond the trust and belief in each other.  When other entities are brought in, beyond the fact of honest and true support, with bias or injected options, things can go and start to turn bad. An honest relationship is built from several entities. From the beginning, it must be trust. Trusting wholeheartedly is the only way one can surrender. If at any point you have doubt, hesitation, or any misgivings, trust is the one thing that can move you forward or backward. Without trust, or giving your partner the benefit of doubt, sometimes, even when you feel you are compromising, you must remember, no one person in a relationship is always right. That’s the strength of learning and growing together. In the end, that just may be the spark that moves you forward. If you must constantly question trust, there is no trust. If your opinion or view is not wholeheartedly and of your own free will, even after a family or friend’s opinion, you are not secure in your own relationship or emotions to carry trust, and most often, will find yourself in constant and continuous turmoil. The validity of your relationship will always be questionable.

Relationships are sacred. They are the giving of the heart, of your goals, dreams, and hopes. They are built from the ground up. Those imperfections that are sure to come along the way, must be handled with responsibility and accountability to keep things honest and fair. They must be handed internally by the two, to achieve any resolution. If you find the need for support, or another option, let it be not bias, but with the utmost respect to see you stand proud, strong, and with dignity to move forward in your own reasoning to render a wholeheartedly decision that is from your heart, a decision that respect the bounds of your relationship, privacy, and caring of your partner even when you do not agree.  

The Desk of Anthony Darden: UNAMERICAN

The Desk of Anthony Darden: UNAMERICAN: Unamerican We are Americans regardless of who is in the White House ©2016 Anthony D Darden      Well folks.... we have a new pres...

UNAMERICAN

Unamerican

We are Americans regardless of who is in the White House
©2016 Anthony D Darden

     Well folks.... we have a new president. Donald J Trump. Democracy speaks, and we must wonder if we were not listening loud enough, or if we just assumed Hillary would win because she seemed the best choice. It would seem a very sad day for America. And I'm sure a lot sadder for Hillary because it ends the Clinton dynasty.
     What is ahead, we do not know. It is disheartening. It's a bitter pill to swallow. But as a nation, we are great. We are strong. We are the backbone of freedom, liberty, and justice for all. We must look at what has divided this nation for so long. People want change. People want fairness, jobs, and freedom. Maintaining isn’t any of those things. Getting by isn’t any of those things. Hoping isn’t any of those things. But believing in yourself, your family, and friends, are all those things.
     We are Americans regardless of who is in the White House. If there is any change, if there is any hope, it is up to us. Democracy is not the power of one man, or one person. It is the peoples voice. It is the peoples hopes. It is the peoples dream. It is everything we stand for. So, if you feel disappointed or let down, don’t be. Rise to the occasion. Stand as an American. Stand for freedom. Stand for liberty and justice for all. But most of all stand for your pride and dignity, the greatness of self. Stand for your family and friends. And even if you are disappointed in the election, stand for America.
     Greatness can only come through you and all those who believe in the greatness of America and what it stands for. Power is not in the White House, but in the people who conceive it. If we are to look for a greater future, we must look ahead without any doubt. We must stand no matter what for the greater good. We must stand for our future. We must stand for the future of our children. We must stand for the future of our family. We cannot turn away in sadness and disappoint. Because to do so, would be devastating. It would mean you are giving up. And that, in itself, is unamerican.   

   

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