© 2017 Anthony D Darden
Is sure to come, as long, as you believe in love.
Tragedy in life brings heartache and pain. It brings suffering and can take us to a low point in our life. It can literally destroy us if we are not able to comprehend, take hold, and find reconciliation. For some, it is much harder than others, especially in a relationship that has defined them, and have been the epitome of their life. It takes so much out of you. Depending on the depth, some never make it back. They can’t seem to cope, and more often than not, end up taking their own life. Lost can be devastating. Especially if you do not see it coming. It is hard to comprehend something you cannot fathom. When faced with it, it can be staggering, surreal, and unbelievable. To the point of denial. No one wants to believe something that was so vital, magical, and breathtaking, has turned and gone so bad. It’s a hard pill to swallow, especially if years of prosperity has shown otherwise.
To believe it is going to last forever, and then suddenly be ambushed, can crumble the tallest mountain. It can break the strongest and destroy the weak. It is the kind of love people are willing to live and die for. It is heart wrenching and sad when lost so devastating finds no humility when finding the necessity to part. It is sad when the time spend together doesn’t render kindness and compassion. It is sad to know people can be so cruel and heartless to each other, and lose themselves in anger, hatred, and sorted revenge. Granted, some relationships need refinement. If a relationship is one sided, it needs change. If a relationship is abusive, it needs change. If a relationship is deceptive, it needs change. If communication and devotion has gone to the wayside, it needs change. It is those who have given their life, have been honest and true, and believe with their heart and soul, who find the trenches deep, mind-blowing, and hard to come back from. Because not only did they not see it coming, but also, it shakes one’s belief to the core. Although it is over, their mind and heart keeps telling them no. Their emotions are not equipped to handle the disbelief. And if what you are and have become, in the relationship, is disconnected, it is easy to spiral out of control and lose your mind and belief in love.
If love is your true nature, even in pain and heartache, the beacon will always shine and lead you through the storm, no matter how shaky and unstable the sea may be. A true nature is defined with life, and the depth of your character. Even in tragedy, love stands of all. If you give your heart and soul to anything, and believe with your soul the vitality and purity of its strength and glory, it will remain an innate foundation of your character. No matter the pain, no matter the heartache, if you find tragedy, inflicted by another, the strength and belief of your character will remain intact, even though the pain is overwhelming and blinding.
If you know within your heart that you have been a good person, have been honest and true, and given your heart and soul to someone you believed was true to you, it is not your weight to carry, even though you will feel the pain and may carry the disappointment for the rest of your life. As it goes, what doesn’t kill us, makes us stronger. And in all fairness, God may have just been looking out for you. Because if someone is that deceitful and heartless, without any remorse or conscious validation, especially if you’ve been devoted, honest, and true, it is more of a blessing than a tragedy.
Normal reasonable and honest people in relationships know the strength and depth of their relationship. They have enough sensibility to know when things are going good or bad. They have enough respect and courtesy, not only for the strength, well-being, and depth of their character, but for your well-being also. Good people don’t hurt other people intentionally. They are more tactful, compassionate, and have enough consideration to bring things to the forefront, to talk, find an understanding, before deciding to part. In some cases, couples make better friends than lovers. Sometimes things just do not work out. It’s the nature of love. Either or, respect, honesty, and the true nature of intentions should always be the deciding foundation, and be a joint decision if one is to part or stay together. Because it is not only about love. It is about integrity, respect, and love for one’s self, and one’s fellow human being. It’s about one’s depth, strength, and character of their being. It’s about being a decent and honest human being. A human being that is irreproachable, compassionate, kind, loving, caring, and passionate about life. A human being that shines with zest, have a spark in their eyes, and is magnetic to the world. A human being that inspires the best not only in self, but in those they love and admire. A human being that is honest and true to the core, and is a blessing to anyone that is deserving.
In tragedy, we must find the strength and depth of our heart. We must know it. We must understand it. If there is any hope of finding our way back into the arms of love, after something so devastating and core shaking, we must believe and hold no reservation of doubt to the goodness of our heart. Although, at first, the tears will come, the mind may not fathom, and the world may seem like it has fallen apart, it is important that you stay real and true to the nature of your being. In truth, honesty and devotion is rewarded in its glory. It enlightens and defines the strength of our character. It brings us full circle to reasoning and purpose, which sometimes can get lost, and pushed to the wayside in a relationship. It makes us a better person, in not only handling tragedy, but adds humility and preservation for the next time around that is sure to come, as long, as you believe in love.